A prayer for the departed

by Reedz on September 27, 2008

During Ramadhan, it’s customary for muslims to visit the graves of their loved ones. During this visit, they will clean the grave, perform the recital of the Yasin — a chapter (surah) from the Qur’an and also the tahlil or prayers for the deceased. All these are done in hope that their loved ones are blessed by God and they are spared from the punishment in the grave.

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For the longest time, its been our family tradition to visit the cemetery in town which is called "Dagang" for some reason. Can someone enlighten us on this mystery?

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Membaca surah Yasin

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Headstone

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Aying asah-asahan or scented water, which is poured over the graves

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Prayers for the departed

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Pouring the scented water

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Siti September 27, 2008 at 2:40 pm

lovely shots tuan reeda. the place looks almost garden-like! ive never seen a kubur in that light before! enjoy the rest of your puasa, selamat hari raya to you your wife and kids. minal aidil walfaizin gitu loh!

Ahim Rani September 28, 2008 at 11:10 am

Stunning Images Bro. Lima Chu Bro!

anakbrunei September 28, 2008 at 11:56 am

Siti: Tks, I was trying to portray a serious and somber place in a more beautiful light, and I’m glad you saw that 🙂 When we remember our loved ones who’ve departed, we should remember them in a beautiful way… no tears, just smiles and laughter…

AR: Tks bro, means a lot coming from you 🙂

ajeesham September 29, 2008 at 9:28 am

Assalamualaikum,
It is true what Siti & Ahim Rani said. All the pics look remarkable. Splendid work. Just want to know what kind of lens do you use to produce those beautiful shots?

hdm September 29, 2008 at 1:11 pm

it is so-called kubur dagang, because originally orang-orang perantau yang dagang and adopt Brunei as their hometown, when they departed they were buried there, maklum tah our side of family not exactly brunei borned. and my granddad on my mummy side was first among our family yang berkubur di sana. Kira family plot lah tu.

anakbrunei September 29, 2008 at 11:10 pm

ajeesham: Wslm and thank you very much. I used two lenses. A 16-35 and a 70-200 to capture these pics.

hdm: well there ya go… learned something new today. Ya, kami ani memang keturunan pendatang heheh! Tapi tetap ANAKBRUNEI! Tks for the info! Bila open house?? heheh

ZS24 August 30, 2009 at 2:24 am

OMG these images are stunning! I never thought Muslim cemeteries are so beautiful! Nothing like this down under! Thank you so much for sharing!

anakbrunei September 1, 2009 at 1:36 pm

Interesting comment on Brudirect from Plenipotentiary:

The spirit of visiting muslim cemetaries can be seen across the country this month. Children being brought by their parents to visit cemeteries are a normal sight.

It is a wonderful to witness how our future generation are nurtured and taught these honorable values. I mean these children may one day visit our grave soon, offering prayers in helping us from two both very different worlds before judgment day.

Yes we are taught to utter prayers not only whilst visiting cemetery of our dearly departed mother/fathers/grandfather/grandmothers but also during our prayer for them.

But one thing we need to note and bear in mind is how to practice and honour some rules while visiting graveyard. There were instances where visitors smoke (maybe not puasa), being noisy, not wearing proper attire and being disrespectful. Children were let playing as if the graveyard is a children's playground.

Some regulations must be followed such as:

– Wear proper attire according to our aurat – especially to women.
– First thing you do before stepping into the graveyard area is utter prayers such as "Assalamualaikum Ya Ahlil Kubur" (do correct me if I am wrong or do add more if you have better doa suggestion).
– Visitors – no smoking in the graveyard area.
– Children are advisably to be not let alone roaming the area. Teach them to sit down and utter word of prayers to the grave you are visiting. That is the purpose of the visit right?
– Advisable to talk less, especially talking rudely among yourself or raising your voice. Speak only when necessary.
– Not advisable for visitors to leave fresh flower bouquet at the grave. This is not the way of the Bruneian, of different culture thus considered, unislamic.

Perhaps some people can add more points to ponder about etiquette if visiting the cemetery during Ramdhan.

Let our deed and prayers for the departed be accepted. But do not neglect the need to remember the etiquette of visiting graveyard.

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