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Are you an introvert?

Do you prefer your own company sometimes? Away from the madding crowd? Do you consider your personal space sacred? Chances are, like me, you’re an introvert. Contrary to what most people think, an introvert is not simply a person who is shy. In fact, being shy has little to do with being an introvert! Shyness [...]

Do you prefer your own company sometimes? Away from the madding crowd? Do you consider your personal space sacred? Chances are, like me, you’re an introvert.

Contrary to what most people think, an introvert is not simply a person who is shy. In fact, being shy has little to do with being an introvert! Shyness has an element of apprehension, nervousness and anxiety, and while an introvert may also be shy, introversion itself is not shyness. Basically, an introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by being around other people.

Introverts are more concerned with the inner world of the mind. They enjoy thinking, exploring their thoughts and feelings. They often avoid social situations because being around people drains their energy. This is true even if they have good social skills. After being with people for any length of time, such as at a party, they need time alone to “recharge.”

When introverts want to be alone, it is not, by itself, a sign of depression. It means that they either need to regain their energy from being around people or that they simply want the time to be with their own thoughts. Being with people, even people they like and are comfortable with, can prevent them from their desire to be quietly introspective.

Being introspective, though, does not mean that an introvert never has conversations. However, those conversations are generally about ideas and concepts, not about what they consider the trivial matters of social small talk.

Here are five signs a person is an introvert. I found myself nodding to all five…

Graphic designer Schroeder Jones has come up with an easy-to-understand guide to getting to know introverts.

Introverts are all around and perhaps, understanding how they tick will make for lasting friendships with people that seem shy and quiet at first.

Remember that not everyone who is interesting or worth getting to know, has to be chatty or overtly friendly.

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Do you prefer your own company sometimes? Away from the madding crowd? Do you consider your personal space sacred? Chances are, like me, you’re an introvert.

Contrary to what most people think, an introvert is not simply a person who is shy. In fact, being shy has little to do with being an introvert! Shyness has an element of apprehension, nervousness and anxiety, and while an introvert may also be shy, introversion itself is not shyness. Basically, an introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by being around other people.

Introverts are more concerned with the inner world of the mind. They enjoy thinking, exploring their thoughts and feelings. They often avoid social situations because being around people drains their energy. This is true even if they have good social skills. After being with people for any length of time, such as at a party, they need time alone to “recharge.”

When introverts want to be alone, it is not, by itself, a sign of depression. It means that they either need to regain their energy from being around people or that they simply want the time to be with their own thoughts. Being with people, even people they like and are comfortable with, can prevent them from their desire to be quietly introspective.

Being introspective, though, does not mean that an introvert never has conversations. However, those conversations are generally about ideas and concepts, not about what they consider the trivial matters of social small talk.

Here are five signs a person is an introvert. I found myself nodding to all five…

Graphic designer Schroeder Jones has come up with an easy-to-understand guide to getting to know introverts.

Introverts are all around and perhaps, understanding how they tick will make for lasting friendships with people that seem shy and quiet at first.

Remember that not everyone who is interesting or worth getting to know, has to be chatty or overtly friendly.

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A needy family of nine is seeking assistance as their current residence – a dilapidated hut with zinc roofing for walls and salvaged wooden planks for floors – has become unsafe, particularly in view of the number of people it houses. The family of converts comprises Reduan Abdullah, a Malaysian national, his wife Majidah Abdullah, [...]

Reduan Abdullah and family standing beside the dilapidated hut

Reduan Abdullah and family standing beside the dilapidated hut

A needy family of nine is seeking assistance as their current residence – a dilapidated hut with zinc roofing for walls and salvaged wooden planks for floors – has become unsafe, particularly in view of the number of people it houses.

The family of converts comprises Reduan Abdullah, a Malaysian national, his wife Majidah Abdullah, a Brunei permanent resident, their seven children and an elderly mother, all of whom have been staying in the hut located on a land with Temporary Occupational Licence (TOL) at Simpang 638-16, Kampong Tanah Tersusun Lumut ever since Reduan retired from the Kuala Belait Municipal Department in 2011.

The sorry state of the entrance

The sorry state of the entrance

The children have had to stop school since Reduan’s retirement as they could not afford the expenses. Their eldest child, a 22-year-old, is only Primary 6-educated, and survives by earning from bridal makeup jobs in Bandar Seri Begawan.

The family has attempted to seek help from the relevant authorities, however, their applications have been unsuccessful, except for the one-year basic food assistance from Dakwah Islamic Centre, which has to be renewed annually.

Reduan tries to make ends meet by taking on grass-cutting jobs, looking for young shoots in the jungle to be sold as vegetables. To feed the family, he occasionally fishes.

This is the space where the family of 9 rests, eats, and sleeps

This is the space where the family of 9 rests, eats, and sleeps

Basic facilities such as electricity and water are not available. The family makes use of a generator which was contributed to them a few years ago, and collects water in drums for their daily domestic and cooking usage.

State Legislative Council member YB Haji Shafiee bin Ahmad, who is also the Lumut 1 Village Head, when interviewed, noted that with the cooperation of Lumut 11 Village Head Haji Abd Rahman Hashim, they had submitted an application form to obtain a residence for Reduan’s family, and that it is currently pending. YB Haji Shafiee also said that they will conduct a follow-up of the application.

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Reduan Abdullah and family standing beside the dilapidated hut

Reduan Abdullah and family standing beside the dilapidated hut

A needy family of nine is seeking assistance as their current residence – a dilapidated hut with zinc roofing for walls and salvaged wooden planks for floors – has become unsafe, particularly in view of the number of people it houses.

The family of converts comprises Reduan Abdullah, a Malaysian national, his wife Majidah Abdullah, a Brunei permanent resident, their seven children and an elderly mother, all of whom have been staying in the hut located on a land with Temporary Occupational Licence (TOL) at Simpang 638-16, Kampong Tanah Tersusun Lumut ever since Reduan retired from the Kuala Belait Municipal Department in 2011.

The sorry state of the entrance

The sorry state of the entrance

The children have had to stop school since Reduan’s retirement as they could not afford the expenses. Their eldest child, a 22-year-old, is only Primary 6-educated, and survives by earning from bridal makeup jobs in Bandar Seri Begawan.

The family has attempted to seek help from the relevant authorities, however, their applications have been unsuccessful, except for the one-year basic food assistance from Dakwah Islamic Centre, which has to be renewed annually.

Reduan tries to make ends meet by taking on grass-cutting jobs, looking for young shoots in the jungle to be sold as vegetables. To feed the family, he occasionally fishes.

This is the space where the family of 9 rests, eats, and sleeps

This is the space where the family of 9 rests, eats, and sleeps

Basic facilities such as electricity and water are not available. The family makes use of a generator which was contributed to them a few years ago, and collects water in drums for their daily domestic and cooking usage.

State Legislative Council member YB Haji Shafiee bin Ahmad, who is also the Lumut 1 Village Head, when interviewed, noted that with the cooperation of Lumut 11 Village Head Haji Abd Rahman Hashim, they had submitted an application form to obtain a residence for Reduan’s family, and that it is currently pending. YB Haji Shafiee also said that they will conduct a follow-up of the application.

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In the Hokkien dialect, Chap Goh Meh means the 15th night of Chinese New year. It is celebrated with prayers and offerings to mark the end of the Chinese New Year. For most Bruneians nowadays, Chap Goh Meh is not celebrated widely. Most of the celebrations, if any, are confined to a small family dinner. [...]

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In the Hokkien dialect, Chap Goh Meh means the 15th night of Chinese New year. It is celebrated with prayers and offerings to mark the end of the Chinese New Year.

For most Bruneians nowadays, Chap Goh Meh is not celebrated widely. Most of the celebrations, if any, are confined to a small family dinner. Although there will be families who prefer eating out on Chap Goh Meh but their dinners will not be the large family gathering at the beginning of the Chinese New Year.

Since today is also a public holiday marking the Maulud Nabi, many families, chinese and non-chinese, took the opportunity to get together for a nice meal. Some restaurants offered special meals which included free yee sang as well to give it a festive atmosphere.

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In the Hokkien dialect, Chap Goh Meh means the 15th night of Chinese New year. It is celebrated with prayers and offerings to mark the end of the Chinese New Year.

For most Bruneians nowadays, Chap Goh Meh is not celebrated widely. Most of the celebrations, if any, are confined to a small family dinner. Although there will be families who prefer eating out on Chap Goh Meh but their dinners will not be the large family gathering at the beginning of the Chinese New Year.

Since today is also a public holiday marking the Maulud Nabi, many families, chinese and non-chinese, took the opportunity to get together for a nice meal. Some restaurants offered special meals which included free yee sang as well to give it a festive atmosphere.

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Tunjangan Hari Raya?

Did you know that in Indonesia Idul Fitri has a legally mandated salary bonus for all employees, known as Tunjangan Hari Raya (THR) as enforced by Indonesia’s Ministry of Manpower and Transmigration (“Kementerian Tenaga Kerja dan Transmigrasi”)? That’s right folks. The mandated amount of this salary bonus differs by region. For example, within the Jakarta [...]

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Did you know that in Indonesia Idul Fitri has a legally mandated salary bonus for all employees, known as Tunjangan Hari Raya (THR) as enforced by Indonesia’s Ministry of Manpower and Transmigration (“Kementerian Tenaga Kerja dan Transmigrasi”)? That’s right folks. The mandated amount of this salary bonus differs by region. For example, within the Jakarta region the THR bonus must be not less than one month’s full salary paid in advance of Idul Fitri, in addition to the employee’s regular salary. Thus, Idul Fitri is also a paid holiday. Breaching or withholding THR is a very serious labour law infraction and punished severely, regardless of employer status or position.

In Malaysia, Singapore, and Brunei, Eid is more commonly known as Hari Raya Aidilfitri, Hari Raya Idul Fitri or Hari Raya Puasa. Hari Raya means ‘Celebration Day’. Idul Fitri is the biggest holiday in Indonesia and Brunei; and one of the biggest in Malaysia and Singapore. Shopping malls and bazaars are usually filled with people to get things for Lebaran such as ; new clothes, shoes, sandals even food to serve days ahead of Idul Fitri, which creates a distinctive festive atmosphere throughout the country, along with traffic mayhem. Many banks, government and private offices are closed for the duration of the Lebaran festivities.

Pics from an open house held at the home of a very, very close associate…

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Did you know that in Indonesia Idul Fitri has a legally mandated salary bonus for all employees, known as Tunjangan Hari Raya (THR) as enforced by Indonesia’s Ministry of Manpower and Transmigration (“Kementerian Tenaga Kerja dan Transmigrasi”)? That’s right folks. The mandated amount of this salary bonus differs by region. For example, within the Jakarta region the THR bonus must be not less than one month’s full salary paid in advance of Idul Fitri, in addition to the employee’s regular salary. Thus, Idul Fitri is also a paid holiday. Breaching or withholding THR is a very serious labour law infraction and punished severely, regardless of employer status or position.

In Malaysia, Singapore, and Brunei, Eid is more commonly known as Hari Raya Aidilfitri, Hari Raya Idul Fitri or Hari Raya Puasa. Hari Raya means ‘Celebration Day’. Idul Fitri is the biggest holiday in Indonesia and Brunei; and one of the biggest in Malaysia and Singapore. Shopping malls and bazaars are usually filled with people to get things for Lebaran such as ; new clothes, shoes, sandals even food to serve days ahead of Idul Fitri, which creates a distinctive festive atmosphere throughout the country, along with traffic mayhem. Many banks, government and private offices are closed for the duration of the Lebaran festivities.

Pics from an open house held at the home of a very, very close associate…

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A couple of weeks ago, we celebrated the FIL’s 72nd birthday at Ligong Restaurant at the Empire. The all you can eat promo is one of our favourites when it comes to special celebrations like these. Happy Birthday babah, from all the gang. Wishing you good health, and happiness throughout the year!

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A couple of weeks ago, we celebrated the FIL’s 72nd birthday at Ligong Restaurant at the Empire. The all you can eat promo is one of our favourites when it comes to special celebrations like these. Happy Birthday babah, from all the gang. Wishing you good health, and happiness throughout the year!

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A couple of weeks ago, we celebrated the FIL’s 72nd birthday at Ligong Restaurant at the Empire. The all you can eat promo is one of our favourites when it comes to special celebrations like these. Happy Birthday babah, from all the gang. Wishing you good health, and happiness throughout the year!

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Last weekend, a whole bunch of like-minded parents who wanted to see their kids succeed in school and in life, accompanied their kids to a two-day intensive workshop called the “Genius IQ Success Training” program. The program had two objectives, firstly to teach study techniques to the kids (and the parents heheh) and to instill [...]

Last weekend, a whole bunch of like-minded parents who wanted to see their kids succeed in school and in life, accompanied their kids to a two-day intensive workshop called the “Genius IQ Success Training” program. The program had two objectives, firstly to teach study techniques to the kids (and the parents heheh) and to instill positive parenting values to all parents who attended.

I believe all who attended, parents AND kids were profoundly affected by the program and went home on Sunday night with a seed planted into our psyche. This seed will hopefully bloom over the coming days, weeks and months and we will see a lot of students in Brunei become even more awesome!

Thank you Genius IQ for bringing the program in and I hope to see more parents and their children being “touched” by this awesome program!

Our powerful coaches, Suria and Kong

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Last weekend, a whole bunch of like-minded parents who wanted to see their kids succeed in school and in life, accompanied their kids to a two-day intensive workshop called the “Genius IQ Success Training” program. The program had two objectives, firstly to teach study techniques to the kids (and the parents heheh) and to instill positive parenting values to all parents who attended.

I believe all who attended, parents AND kids were profoundly affected by the program and went home on Sunday night with a seed planted into our psyche. This seed will hopefully bloom over the coming days, weeks and months and we will see a lot of students in Brunei become even more awesome!

Thank you Genius IQ for bringing the program in and I hope to see more parents and their children being “touched” by this awesome program!

Our powerful coaches, Suria and Kong

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I’m sure all of us aspire to positive parenting all the time, but its not easy. Trust me, I know… Positive parenting allows parents the ability to raise happier, healthier kids. Kids raised using a positive parenting approach have strong self esteem, confidence, and more contentment in their lives. You can instill core strength in [...]

I’m sure all of us aspire to positive parenting all the time, but its not easy. Trust me, I know…

Positive parenting allows parents the ability to raise happier, healthier kids. Kids raised using a positive parenting approach have strong self esteem, confidence, and more contentment in their lives. You can instill core strength in your children by using some of the following positive parenting ideas.

1. Envisioning the future with your children can help them learn motivation. When you talk about and think about long-term goals as well as the steps it takes to achieve those goals, your children can conceive of their own ability to achieve and feel confident in their own ability. However, it’s important not to only worry about the future but to enjoy the now.

2. Living mindfully. Teaching your children to think about and envision their future success is important, but so is helping them learn to enjoy the simple, every day moments of life. In fact, living mindfully can help your children be grateful for what they have.

3. Supportive relationships: Promoting supportive relationships with family and friends is very important to helping your children feel safe, secure, and successful. It imbues a sense of belonging that helps children thrive. Parents benefit as well from having access to supportive networks of friends and families.

4. Living optimistically: Setting the example by doing this yourself as well as teaching your children how to live optimistically by believing in possibilities and hope will help your children to have more confidence.

Building these core strengths into your children’s mental makeup are definitive ways you can help empower your children to lead successful, content lives. Not only do children who demonstrate these strengths fare better throughout childhood by being stronger students who suffer less from negative self image, depression, and academic struggle, but these strengths can carry them through life more successfully as well.

Additional core strengths you should focus on when positive parenting include:

Resilience: Teaching your children to react with positivity to the experiences that they have in their lives can help them learn resilience. Resilience is a key strength that promotes tenacity and determination.

Self awareness: Parents who demonstrate a willingness to take care of themselves – eating right, exercising, taking time for themselves – pass on these traits to their children. Being self-aware and capable of recognizing and meeting your own needs is a critical strength.

Developing these core strengths in your children requires you to embrace them in yourself as well. No matter what you try to teach your kids, they will mimic your behavior. Choosing to live with positivity in your life will help your children embrace doing so as well.

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I’m sure all of us aspire to positive parenting all the time, but its not easy. Trust me, I know…

Positive parenting allows parents the ability to raise happier, healthier kids. Kids raised using a positive parenting approach have strong self esteem, confidence, and more contentment in their lives. You can instill core strength in your children by using some of the following positive parenting ideas.

1. Envisioning the future with your children can help them learn motivation. When you talk about and think about long-term goals as well as the steps it takes to achieve those goals, your children can conceive of their own ability to achieve and feel confident in their own ability. However, it’s important not to only worry about the future but to enjoy the now.

2. Living mindfully. Teaching your children to think about and envision their future success is important, but so is helping them learn to enjoy the simple, every day moments of life. In fact, living mindfully can help your children be grateful for what they have.

3. Supportive relationships: Promoting supportive relationships with family and friends is very important to helping your children feel safe, secure, and successful. It imbues a sense of belonging that helps children thrive. Parents benefit as well from having access to supportive networks of friends and families.

4. Living optimistically: Setting the example by doing this yourself as well as teaching your children how to live optimistically by believing in possibilities and hope will help your children to have more confidence.

Building these core strengths into your children’s mental makeup are definitive ways you can help empower your children to lead successful, content lives. Not only do children who demonstrate these strengths fare better throughout childhood by being stronger students who suffer less from negative self image, depression, and academic struggle, but these strengths can carry them through life more successfully as well.

Additional core strengths you should focus on when positive parenting include:

Resilience: Teaching your children to react with positivity to the experiences that they have in their lives can help them learn resilience. Resilience is a key strength that promotes tenacity and determination.

Self awareness: Parents who demonstrate a willingness to take care of themselves – eating right, exercising, taking time for themselves – pass on these traits to their children. Being self-aware and capable of recognizing and meeting your own needs is a critical strength.

Developing these core strengths in your children requires you to embrace them in yourself as well. No matter what you try to teach your kids, they will mimic your behavior. Choosing to live with positivity in your life will help your children embrace doing so as well.

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The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teens workshop concluded yesterday with a closing ceremony which featured presentations from all the kids followed by a certificate presentation. After the event, I asked my girls what they learnt from the workshop and what their conclusions were. Below is their response: We joined the 7 habits of highly [...]

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teens workshop concluded yesterday with a closing ceremony which featured presentations from all the kids followed by a certificate presentation. After the event, I asked my girls what they learnt from the workshop and what their conclusions were. Below is their response:

We joined the 7 habits of highly effective teens which was sponsored by BIBD and was held at the Chancelor Hall in UBD. On the first day Saras our mentor started off with Habit 1: Be Proactive. In this Habit, it tells you the two different types of people you choose to be and encourages us to learn how to pause and think about how we want to respond to a situation before doing it. The second habit, Begin with the end in mind was introduced to us by our other mentor, Edmund. It is very important to have an end in mind because this will guide you to what you want to do.

On the second day, we started the day with Habit 3: Put first things first. It taught us how to plan and do the important things first. The fourth habit is Think win-win. This habit tells us that there is always a choice in a particular situation. Either win-win. Lose-lose, win-lose or lose-win. Habit 5 is Seek first to understand, then to be understood. If you realize, 53% on of how we communicate is based on our body language. 40% is based on our tone or feeling and lastly 7% is based on words.

On the third day, we were finally exposed to habit 6 and 7 which are Synergize and Sharpen the saw. In other words, synergizing is also another term for team work. By synergizing, we can get better results than being on our own. Do you ever wonder why a flock of geese fly in a v formation? It is because when they synergize they are able to fly faster that way. We ended the course with habit 7: sharpen the saw.

Our conclusion is that being proactive is better than being reactive because it brings good in the end. Not only that but we have learned a lot of useful things through inspiring videos that we can follow and apply in our everyday life. This course was a life changing experience for us and everybody who joined.

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The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teens workshop concluded yesterday with a closing ceremony which featured presentations from all the kids followed by a certificate presentation. After the event, I asked my girls what they learnt from the workshop and what their conclusions were. Below is their response:

We joined the 7 habits of highly effective teens which was sponsored by BIBD and was held at the Chancelor Hall in UBD. On the first day Saras our mentor started off with Habit 1: Be Proactive. In this Habit, it tells you the two different types of people you choose to be and encourages us to learn how to pause and think about how we want to respond to a situation before doing it. The second habit, Begin with the end in mind was introduced to us by our other mentor, Edmund. It is very important to have an end in mind because this will guide you to what you want to do.

On the second day, we started the day with Habit 3: Put first things first. It taught us how to plan and do the important things first. The fourth habit is Think win-win. This habit tells us that there is always a choice in a particular situation. Either win-win. Lose-lose, win-lose or lose-win. Habit 5 is Seek first to understand, then to be understood. If you realize, 53% on of how we communicate is based on our body language. 40% is based on our tone or feeling and lastly 7% is based on words.

On the third day, we were finally exposed to habit 6 and 7 which are Synergize and Sharpen the saw. In other words, synergizing is also another term for team work. By synergizing, we can get better results than being on our own. Do you ever wonder why a flock of geese fly in a v formation? It is because when they synergize they are able to fly faster that way. We ended the course with habit 7: sharpen the saw.

Our conclusion is that being proactive is better than being reactive because it brings good in the end. Not only that but we have learned a lot of useful things through inspiring videos that we can follow and apply in our everyday life. This course was a life changing experience for us and everybody who joined.

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Yesterday saw the opening of the highly anticipated “7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens” workshop organized by BIBD in collaboration with UBD and AdvanSkills Services. As expected, there was a huge turnout of over 150 young ones between the ages of 11 to 19. The opening ceremony was officiated by YB Minister of Education. Also [...]

Yesterday saw the opening of the highly anticipated “7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens” workshop organized by BIBD in collaboration with UBD and AdvanSkills Services. As expected, there was a huge turnout of over 150 young ones between the ages of 11 to 19. The opening ceremony was officiated by YB Minister of Education. Also present were the Vice-Chancellor of UBD (who sent 3 of his kids too) and the Actiong MD of BIBD, Javed Ahmad.

The workshop is expected to provide students with a step-by-step framework for boosting self-image, building friendships, resisting peer pressure, improving communication and habits from inside and out. Judging by how my girls were raving about it after the first day, the trainers are delivering as promised!

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Yesterday saw the opening of the highly anticipated “7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens” workshop organized by BIBD in collaboration with UBD and AdvanSkills Services. As expected, there was a huge turnout of over 150 young ones between the ages of 11 to 19. The opening ceremony was officiated by YB Minister of Education. Also present were the Vice-Chancellor of UBD (who sent 3 of his kids too) and the Actiong MD of BIBD, Javed Ahmad.

The workshop is expected to provide students with a step-by-step framework for boosting self-image, building friendships, resisting peer pressure, improving communication and habits from inside and out. Judging by how my girls were raving about it after the first day, the trainers are delivering as promised!

Signing up in the morning

My buddy from Sekolah Perdagangan and his son

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